Thursday, November 29, 2007

Ok, I know I already posted once already today...

I can't help but feel so excited! I remember feeling the same way when I started the process for my China girl, but this time it is different. Before, I was anticipating a 12-14 month wait (I have now been waiting 10 months and expect to wait another 2+ years). This time, I'm only expecting a 4-5 month wait from DTC to referral. I can hardly imagine. For me, this whole thing...it won't feel really real until I have his photo in my hand. Truly. Even though I have been working towards an adoption for over a year now, having that photo will mean more than anything up to this point has. It's almost more than I can imagine. To think that I could hold Haven's little picture in my hand next spring, well, it blows my mind. To think that I might be holding my little Haven sometime next summer....I just can't put it into words. It's indescribable. To know that these children that I have carried so close to my heart, that felt real only to me, are going to be tangible, I can't express what my heart feels. Bear with me for a moment while I revel in this moment...I know there are plenty of other PAPs right now that aren't so optimistic. I won't be able to believe it until I see his photo. I just pray that the rest of the process flow smoothly.

Thanks for listening.

One big happy family

Well, I finally had to share my news with the lady I share my office with.  It wasn't that I didn't trust her--I think she will be a great mentor for me and since she is married to the hospital's HIPPA privacy officer, I know she can keep a secret. I'm just private and I don't like being asked "how much longer?" by people I really don't know.  That is one thing I learned adopting my China baby.  Anyway, I shared the news with her on Tuesday and she was very happy for me.  The number of phone calls I was making to my doctor and whispering the word "adoption" I realized it was time to share the news or figure out new ways of tricking her so she would leave the office. 

Yesterday she asked what my plans were for maternity leave.  I told her I really didn't know.  I just hoped to have about 3-4 weeks saved up by the time I travel.  I pray that God keeps me healthy the next year so that I can start adding the hours up.  She mentioned that people can donate PTO to me.  Hmmm, that's good to know.  She also asked about fundraising and how I was going to raise the money.  Again, a big fat "I don't know."  I just assumed I was going to take out a loan.  I hate to do that because it leaves me really strapped once he and my China baby come home.  She told me to remind her once I got my referral and she would try to think of ways that I can fundraise.  She said, "don't look at it as asking for money.  Let people share your joy.  People here love to donate money for positive things."  I am not good at charity, but I realized when I started this a few weeks ago that I was really going to let God work any way that he can. 

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

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Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Papers and more papers

Well, I finally got my "official" application sent out via FedEx to the agency yesterday.  It is supposed to arrive tomorrow so hopefully they will send out my dossier packet quickly.  I have an appointment with my allergist next week and I'm going to try to sweet talk her into doing my physical, but I really need to know what the agency requires of VN PAPS for the physical.  For China I had to have HIV testing, liver profile (presumably for alcohol abuse?), TB/chest x-ray and a boat load of other tests.  My SW only indicated a few tests on their international adoption physical form which I am sure does not encompass everything that is required.

I also completed my home study application and I plan on mailing that express tomorrow.  Whew.  So glad to have that monkey off my back.  I'm not good with numbers and I really hate trying to figure out how much things cost and accounting for every penny I own.  It's exhausting.  I just feel like waving goodbye at the nice little sum in my check book.  Who knows when I will money in there again?

Monday, November 26, 2007

Now the work begins...

I was so stinkin' excited and now I am so stinkin' tired.  I started working on my paperwork last night and didn't get to bed until 12:30 am.  The alarm went off at 6 am.  Ugh. 

I completed my official application to adopt from VN and submitted it to my agency with a nice chubby check.  I then began working on the documents required for my home study.  Oy.  Although it has only been 13 months since the last time I have done this, they have included more things.  I emailed the lead SW because I was a bit overwhelmed by the amount and I wasn't sure where to find certain forms.  She emailed back to say that some forms have already been eliminated for international adoptions (there was a new fingerprint process which meant I would have had to be fingerprinted twice for the same adoption and within the same month).  She also said that some of the information can be obtained from last year's home study.  Whew.  For any prospective adoptive parents out there reading this, be prepared to do autobiographies on yourself and your parenting style during the home study process.  Last year I had 3 different papers I had to write.  The information was so detailed I had to call my mom to ask when her parents were born, when her siblings were born, what education they received and what careers they had.  In addition, I had to do the same for their kids (my cousins).  What the heck?  We are not close to extended family and never have been.  We've always lived too far away. 

I'm still trying to get my physical moved up.  My appointment isn't until 12/26 and that is too far away.  I called all the physicians in her practice and the walk in clinic.  No availability from her fellow physicians and the walk-in clinic won't do physicals.  I found another Emergent Care setting that I think will do the physical, but no guarantee they will order the blood/urine/x-ray tests.  Ugh.  My insurance kicks in next week so I will do it then.  The month of December is going to be crazy for me because of work.  I really need to get as much done next week, because the following week I'm pulling an all-nighters and I will be useless for a few days.  Then I am in Dallas for business until the 2 days before Christmas.  I really need to be done by then.

My goal, if I haven't stated it often enough already, is to be done by the end of the year.  I may not have my 171H, but I want everything else to be completed and ready for state certification and VN embassy authentication.  I have my 3 ring binder and a check list.  I called all my references last night (thanks Michael, Sherry, Kristen, and Anne), I spoke to my boss (I'm a new hire--I just completed my second month) about my China baby last week (I didn't know for sure about Haven at that point), and I spoke to HR today.  I think I'm ready for the rollercoaster again! 

Saturday, November 24, 2007

So Excited!

It's so hard for me to keep my big news to myself!  I can't wait to be able to share it with the rest of my family.  My mom did admit that she has had a hard time picturing a little boy when she has thought of my little China girl for so long.  I have told her this feels right.  I wanted my daughter to have a brother close to her age and I wanted him to be a bit older than her.  I do recognize that they could potentially be the same age, but it will likely be a year in between the arrival of my children.  Somedays I think I'm crazy and I know that I will never have money again.  What's the point of having money if you have no one to share it with?  I will never have as much money in the bank as I want and my retirement investments will always look wimpy compared to what I want them to look like.  Knowing this has actually made the decision easier. 

I looked around yesterday and today and realized that at this time next year, my life is going to be very different.  I may be having Thanksgiving Dinner at my house, but my son will be here too.  The room I am currently sleeping in (since my g'ma has my bedroom until tomorrow) will be his room.  The computer that I am writing on will no longer be in this room.  It will be in the living room at a desk that I will have my handyman build.  All the plans that I envisioned for my house are happening, not because I want to move things around, but because I will have a family.  How incredible is that?  I can not wait to start the next phase of my life.  And I can't wait to share this with my children.  I can't wait to see what's around the next bend.  And I can't wait to see my son's referral photo.  And most of all, I can't wait to hold him in my arms.  I can't wait to cradle both my children in my arms. 

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This started as my story, but has evolved to OUR story. This is the story of life as a single parent to a wonderful little boy while we wait for baby sister. China LID 2.12.07.


But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, be patient! For it will surely take place. It will not be late by a single day.
Habakkuk 2:3

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